To: hmmpfh
From: Pointe

Hi there! I totally understand how you feel because I have an older brother myself too and you all know that I'm obviously a girl right? So anyway, I hope that you two don't fight right? I mean, he threatens you with violence but I seriously hope you didn't fight back. Because, that would only make matters worse.

Sometimes elder siblings pick on their younger siblings all in the name of fun. They find it fun to poke us around, to make us angry, to see our reactions, to irritate and annoy us. But deep down, they mean no harm. Just like what I said in bendan's post, siblings really do share a special bond nothing can even replace. I think you should just grit your teeth and bear with it. Maybe if he gets out of hand, just go tell on him to your mother or any other adult. Older siblings HATE being told on and who knows, he might just stop bullying you.

This is just a phase all siblings go through okay? Don't think too much about it and try to spend more quality time with your brother. He might turn out to be nice after all. Everything will be alright.

Love, Pointe

To: bendan
From: Pointe

Hi I'm so sorry for replying your tag late so please forgive me yeah.
First up, is your family really that terrible? Is your family really the worst of the worst in this world? If you really think so, I feel that you should think again. We all know the common phrase: " Blood is thicker than water", right? Maybe for you, you think that it is just some cliched phrase that insolent people preach about but seriously, things may not be all that bad.

You said that you're always the one giving in to him but "today" you could not take it anymore. Actually many siblings experience the same thing that you experienced. It's not perfectly normal but siblings share a special bond. The bigger tend to feel the need to bully the smaller I think. But if you look at it in a different way, maybe all he wants is your attention. He shouted at you, that is wrong and disrespectful but maybe he was all worked up. Trust me, you brother loves you. I used to hate my brother a lot but once we grew up, we learnt to accept each other and live harmoniously.

Having a sibling is a blessing. A younger sibling especially can be of much joy to you as of a chocolate sundae is to a young toddler. He may be bigger and taller than you but apart from all that differences, you two are bonded together by blood. No matter how many fights you two have gone through, it's the blood bond that counts. He has his wrongdoings but he will learn. Now, as his elder sibling, try and bear with him. Don't hit or swear at him. Your mother will take care of the disciplining.

For now, just treasure the fact that you have a family. There are others out there who are without families and I can assure you, their lives are much more terrible than yours. Families are sacred okay?

Not sure if I helped but yeah..

Love, Pointe

To everyone at the family tagboard.
From Hope

Firstly, we all agree that parents suck. I agree fully with you too haha. But this is part of growing up! I have practical advice whereby i personally use them to escape from the clutches of my parents, unless i get into serious trouble.

For parents naggings, especially motherly kinds, get the SONY ERICCSON type of earphones, whereby you plus them in and can only hear your music and nothing else? Or those earphones which cancel noise? I swear by it, IT WORKS. At least half of your parents' nagging will be drowned by wonderful music. Trust me (:

To avoid scoldings, firstly, dont stay in the house. Get out to breathe some fresh air, go out with your friends!
Staying at home= more unnecessary exposure with parents= potiential scoldings
Therefore it is definitely good to be outside. Just have enough money. Seriously. Though parents will be nagging you like, "See la, everyday go out"! Rebuke them by saying," Go out to ____(library, friend's house etc.) lah". Results? Tell them,"why dont you try doing the exam paper, i'll LOVE to see how much you score" or "The whole class also pretty much failed what, i considered very good lerh eh"! Dont use this two, if you got really bad grades though. Parents, are like fighting a war. You need to be verbally prepared to fight and rebuke them. If all else fails, keep drinking water. At least you dont need to reply them. Or go to the bathroom or go to sleep. Settled.

For seriously crazy parents who pick on you for every detail, these parents are hopeless. You can only probably rebuke them by saying "Yeah treat me so bad, next time dont support you when grow old le! Beware retribution ah!" Parents can be so random.
Anyone got tips to share on how to fight parents?

HOPE (:

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